The New Math: Little Black Dress + Jammies = Tater Tots and Beer


The past few days have been a whirlwind, and since I can't quite remember everything, here are a couple highlights.

Thursday evening was out with AC. We shared a bucket of tater tots with siracha ketchup, and then I had a faux chicken sammich with pasta salad. The pasta salad didn't taste like anything, but the sammich was good. I ate about half because the tater tots were better. Not a healthy evening, I know.

Lunch on Friday left me scarred for life. After an all-staff meeting, one of my co-workers and I went to Gordon Biersch for lunch. I ordered the veggie tacos – no cheese/sour cream – and a side salad. I told the waitress I was vegan as I was ordering to (hopefully) ensure that my food was animal-product free. Two bites into my side salad, I realized it had bacon. I was SO pissed. The waitress looked at me like I was nuts (it killed my appetite, and no…I didn't want a new salad). Her response “oops”. Ugh. I understand that my being vegan is my choice and not driven by a medical necessity, etc, but still. The lack of understanding of why I was upset was disturbing. I don't eat meat for ethical reasons, and knowing I had some may may not be a big deal to others, but it was a very big deal to me.

I did write a letter on their Contact form from their website:

I dined for lunch in your Virginia Beach restaurant at approximately 1130 am on 10/25. I ordered the veggie tacos and a side salad, and explained to the waitress that I was vegan, so no cheese, etc.
The salad was delivered, and after two bites, I realized it had bacon in it. When she came back, she seemed baffled why this was upsetting to me and why I didn't want a replacement salad (I lost my appetite).
I will say the manager was wonderful – came to our table, apologized, and explained that he will speak with her.
I understand that my not eating meat is not an allergy and may not be taken as seriously by the restaurant, but as an ethical vegan, I was horrified.
Choosing a dietary lifestyle can be as important to a person as a medically necessary restriction. Please reinforce to all your leadership and staff how important it is to understand food differences and choices, and how to honor that appropriately.

Thank you.

Lesson learned.

The rest of the weekend was low key. Soups, salads, smoothies, and fruit.


I went to a hot vinyasa class on Thursday, which was awesome. I hadn't done a hot vin class in awhile, and the pace was perfect.

I had every intention of getting up Friday morning to run. I even put out my clothes so I'd be ready to go. It worked so well on Wednesday, I figured it was a sure thing!

Then at 5am my alarm went off, and it was only 37 degrees outside. I was not prepared for that! I had to be at work by 8, so I wouldn't have had enough time to dig out the super-cold running clothes, get my run in, and get ready for work (while getting kids ready for school). And then Friday night I got busy, and didn't do it either.

Today I went to a regular hot yoga class. It was also a really good class and was luckily taught by the same instructor as the class I took on Thursday. I will say, that I've never had a bad experience at this studio!


Thursday was work, and then workout. AC texted early in the morning to see if I'd be free after yoga, and I said sure – as long as we go somewhere I can chill in my jammies. The yoga studio is near where we were going out (a few blocks away), and there was no way I was going to simmer in my own drenched sweat while we had beer. I also wasn't going to go home to clean up, nor put real clothes back on after showering. So – the deal was I yoga, shower at the studio, and throw my jammies on.

I walk into the place, and here AC is in this totally cute black dress with boots looking all pretty – and I'm in fleece with soaking wet hair and a beet red face. It was pretty amusing, actually. She had a bucket of tater tots waiting when I got there, so it was all good.

Friday evening D and I were both wiped out. We went to a fall fair at R's school, and by the time we got home around 6 (which isn't late), all I could think about was getting out of the house or going to sleep. So….we went out for a bit. Just to a sports bar down the street (not many other options close to home), but it was really nice. We had fun and were home by 9.

Saturday we went up to A's school for an event and to see her new dorm room and meet her new roomie. It was a relatively short visit, but nice to see her! She's loving school – though needs to work a little harder at math, and less on socializing.

D, M, R and I hit up Busch Gardens for one last Howl-O-Scream hurrah! It was chilly and we were bundled, but it was awesome. D used his new beer sock I picked up in Seattle, and we wandered around the park and had a great time.

Today – laundry, yoga, cleaning, cooking, Whole Foods…the usual. I love Sunday's!

A few random cute weekend pics…


Time to gear up for a busy week ahead!


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I am a 45 yo busy career single mom and doctoral student attempting to find her inner athlete, be a gluten-free(ish) vegan, and find a way to balance it all without going crazy! I love to cook, read, run, box, do yoga, dance, travel, and learn as many new things as I can - which often gets me in trouble.... I am passionate about life in general, and if I didn't write about it, I'd probably implode.

2 thoughts on “The New Math: Little Black Dress + Jammies = Tater Tots and Beer

  1. sunday’s are the best. would like to know what the response is to your letter… as far as the waitress, how can someone working in the food AND service industries be so obtuse?!!

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